Canadian with OCD tells us the s/he feels overwhelmed at times and seeks reassurance from others or attempts to reassure her/himself about self harm. S/he also notes that listening to the exposure script activates his/her fears. I know it is really hard to do exposure, but remember, almost all OCD involves trying to attain 100 %certainty. Most OCD sufferers are unable to do this, because there is no true certainty in the world. As you know for every answer or reassurance there is a what if. Thus every attempt at seeking reassurance from anyone is ultimately doomed.
I suspect that part of the problem with the script is that you don’t want to cope with the possibility that it could come true. I would ask you to think of how you would best cope with it if it did (assuming you survived). How can any of us know what we will do next. I don’t expect to slice and dice my wife tonight, but I can’t know that I won’t go crazy and do it — after all, one doesn’t plan on going crazy. I have to learn how to live in a world where that might happen and I can only hope it doesn’t. What would I do if it really happened? If this were my OCD problem, then my exposure would be to plan how to cope with the guilt afterward and to try to continue on. Yes it would be horrible and I don’t want it, but what choice do I have?
Why would you want to cope with your worst possibility taking place? Because trying to not have it happen is robbing you of life. If it does happen, you will have lost the precious little time you have. If it never happens, you will have lost all. In life, the past is nothing but memory, the future nothing but hope and all we have is now. The goal of acceptance is to learn to enjoy the only thing we can have, the moment.
OCD is both a learned and biological disorder. Given this, medications play an important role, but you need to remember that medication affects biology and not the learned parts of OCD. Because of this, medication alone usually results in a 30-50% reduction in symptoms and sometimes the learned parts of the problem are so powerful, that they overshadow the effects of medication. The best plan of attack with OCD is medication and a form of cognitive behavior therapy known as exposure and response prevention. This treatment has been around since 1979 and both the American Psychological Association and the American Psychiatric Assocation recognize this as a core part of OCD treatment. Unfortunately, it is harder to change mental health professionals than it is to help sufferers of OCD, so that there are many mental health practitioners who ignore these recommendations.
With this in mind, it still may be that besides exposure and response prevention, you needed a higher dose and needed to give medication more time. As to what is the best one or the ones with least side effects — there are 6 SSRI’s that on the average are all good and tend to not have side effects. However, individually, there is much variation, so I wouldn’t be able to predict which might have the least side effects or which would work best for you.
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OCD sufferers often wish they could use the standards that the ‘normal” population uses for living. There are a few problems with this. One major problem is that “normal” people don’t have consistent standards. For example, I was giving a lecture to college students and began the lecture by pouring a can of Pringles potato chips on the floor and eating them. I asked if anyone wanted to join me. The looked at me as if I were crazy. Later in the lecture, I asked if any of them went to parties. As you might expect, the college students eagerly raised their hands. I then asked if they sat on the floor at parties. Again the hands went up. This was followed by, “do you wash your hands before you eat at a party?” Their mouths dropped open, because they knew they didn’t. After this, some of them did eat the Pringles from the floor. However, even those who wouldn’t will continue their party behavior and if you know anything about dorm parties, you can be sure the classroom floor was cleaner. Another behavior many of them admitted to during the lecture waschewing on their pens, despite the fact that they know their pens have dropped on the floor .
The moral of the story: Consistency is the measure of severity, the more consistent you are, the worse your OCD is. “Normals” may say they won’t eat after touching the floor, but they don’t really know what they are doing. An OCD sufferer with contamination issues will be consistent about avoiding the floor and their mouths. Ultimately, inconsistency is one of the goals of your OCD treatment. So next time you want to have “normal” standards, remember that you can’t trust what those “normals” say, but you can be sure they don’t ritualize and avoid the way you do.
Dr. Grayson can be contacted at:
The Anxiety and OCD Treatment Center of Philadelphia
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Bi- Weekly blogs and articles by Dr. Jonathan Grayson and his colleages about OCD, including:
Types of OCD and how to cope with them;
Creating scripts for OCD;
Discovering your OCD treatment motivators;